Dear Friends,
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” I don’t know how many times that phrase has been repeated to children who have been on the receiving end of verbal bullying. I know my mother frequently recited it to me as a reminder that I couldn’t be hurt by unpleasant things that were said to me. A quick Google search yields the information that the saying was used as early as 1862. I’m guessing it was in circulation long before then.
Turns out, it’s not true. Words can and do hurt people. A bully doesn’t have to punch you in the nose to bruise you. Too many tragic stories of young people taking their own lives because of in-person or cyberbullying let us know that words can wound, sometimes fatally. Our spiritual ancestors knew this. Just this past Sunday, we heard the author of the Epistle of James say:
“How great a forest is set ablaze by a small fire! And the tongue is a fire. The tongue is placed among our members as a world of iniquity; it stains the whole body, sets on fire the cycle of nature, and is itself set on fire by hell. . . . With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse those who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this ought not to be so.”
Here in Ohio, we’ve seen Springfield set on fire by hate-filled words and made-up stories about the community of Haitian migrants who have moved to the community for work. The spread of blatantly racist lies has resulted in bomb threats that have closed government offices and businesses and kept children home from school. Former President Trump amplified the falsehoods during the recent debate with Vice President Kamala Harris, and his running mate, Ohio Senator J.D. Vance refused to step back or apologize what had been said in an interview with CNN’s Dana Bash.
Ohio Governor Mike DeWine and Springfield Mayor Rob Rue, both Republicans, have noted the impact of lying words. Mayor Rue said, “Any political leader who takes the national stage and has the national spotlight needs to understand the gravity of the words that they have for cities like ours, and what they say impacts our city.” And Governor DeWine sent Ohio State Highway Patrol troopers on Tuesday to protect the students of the Springfield City School District.
“Words will never hurt me” is not true. They have hurt, and they are hurting the people of Springfield – members of the Haitian community, to be sure, but, truthfully, all the residents.
One of my closest clergy friends was rector of Christ Episcopal Church in Springfield for over a decade, and her husband was a philosophy professor at Wittenberg. They have deep roots in the community and are distraught over what’s happened. If you are interested in helping, they recommend a contribution to the Haitian Community Help & Support Center. You can learn more about them and make a donation here.
You may also be interested in reading a blog post by the Bishop of Southern Ohio, the Rt. Rev. Kristin Uffelman White. The piece is called “Our Words Matter: Standing Up Against Hate in Springfield.” You can find the article at this link.
Words have power – power to bless and to curse. As followers of Jesus, let us use our words to bless.
Blessings,
Stephen Applegate